How to deal?

What's the right way to respond to a co-worker who askes "Did you ever have this problem with this person?"

In the last several weeks, I've gotten this question more times than I can count.  Sadly it's often about some of my favorite vendors, who after several years of working closely with I had to abruptly and uncermoniously pass on.  I don't know the right way to respond.

Given everything, a bitchy "YOU" probably isn't going to help - even though I know everyone in the office knows that's the best answer.  I even had to bite my toungue today when that was the response today from someone. 

I have politely said "I don't know.  I've never seen this side of them." and I've also taken the approach of coaching and trying to walk through the situation and how to better handle, which typically goes over like a lead balloon. 

Hello Rock - Hello Hard Spot!  Just another day at the office.

Oh the Irony....

Like most offices - there's always those people...you know the ones....who like to act a fool and then pretend it's everyone elses issue.  In my office there are battle lines drawn - those of us who just want to do our jobs, act professional and go about our lives and those who consider the F word to be part of every sentence.  Try explaining that to a customer or vendor.  

Trust me I'm no angel, I have my fair share of slips up.  But there's a time and a place.  

However, when one of the parties wants to complain about the noise and how people ask - I can't help but think "What the HELL are you thinking?! YOU are the problem!!".  Of course I can't say that - but I'd sure like to.

So my question - how do you deal with it?  I can't tell this person that if they want a change maybe they should look at how they act, speak and generally treat people in the office.  I can't tell them that the minute they open their mouth the rest of the cringe and roll our eyes.  And I certainly can't tell them that THEY are my greatest professional regret {for real}.

So I smile and nod, pretend like I care, and suggest they invest in some more music. Ugh - Vent Over!  

The Hunt is On

It's been awhile since I found myself in this position.  I'm hunting....for a J.O.B.  UGH!  I hate job searching - the entire process.  Which is why I've been with my current company for as long as I have.  Everyday I approach my job with an optimistic mind set - that it's going to be a good day.  And for while {make that a long while} I've successfully convinced myself that it will be.  But lately I've reach the point where I can't find the good and the maybe today will be the day things will turn around thoughts usually are backed up yet again.  

But more than the time it takes and stress it involves - I feel like such a traitor.  Which is a feeling I absolutely detest.  And like I said - I live my life honestly. 

Making it worse, I genuinely like my boss - really at a personal level.  But professionally - oh it's bad.  I've had my share of rotten bosses, so I don't want to position it as the worst of the worst - but it's the perfect storm.  So here I go - searching. Boo! 

Welcome to The Secret Life of Women

Welcome to a site for women - to discuss what happens in everyday life - in a honest, open and no-holds-bar forum!

About Me:

You can call me E!  In this day and age of technology, I wanted to create a place where I could go to talk about my life, job, interests, etc without worrying about who might see - because be real - we all have days where we just want to bitch about our boss, co-worker, job, husband, kids, parents...well you get the point.

So me - I'm a wife, mother, fashion lover, work-a-holic, blog stalker.  I live my life with no regrets!  And I LOVE talking to people and hearing everyone's stories.  While I'm not a major Oprah fan - I do believe what she says about everyone having a story - and I love to hear those stories.

I'm often told I'm a love or hate type of person - most people love me, but there are just some people who will hate me with a passion.  And that's OK!  I certainly don't like everyone I meet.  I'm outspoken and believe in being straightforward and honest.  I don't say it if I don't mean it!

So welcome to my blog!  I hope you'll find it a place to hear about the Secret Life of Women - or at least 1 woman. 

E!